Dating in India is relatively new and comes with a unique set of challenges. Although there is advice floating about the Internet on dating, most of it is not relevant to India and the modern Indian dating scenario. For example, directly approaching a women in India and asking her phone number will possibly get you yelled at or cold shouldered, whereas that’s exactly the kind of advice that works extremely well in most western countries.
Since dating is not a part of Indian culture, most of us have grown up in a conservative society where dating is still considered taboo. We have had very limited interactions with the opposite sex, we hide our relationships from parents and peers, and as most of us marry before we even understand ourselves and who we are as individuals? Where have we had the time and opportunity to understand the opposite sex? And how are we to have healthy relationships and choose the right partner for long term relationships when we have no clue, how to behave or communicate on a short term interaction like a date?
We download dating apps and we have a great time swiping away at all the options. We’re like kids in a candy store! We pick and choose and taste and spend much time and effort on our choices but realistically, very few of us will have a rewarding experience.
At the end of the day, we make ourselves sick with too much candy or we lust after a candy we can’t afford, or we don’t know which one we want so we get ones that look good but taste horrible.
Good communication and understanding of the opposite sex is key to healthier and rewarding relationships and being happier within ourselves. But we don’t communicate well, we don’t know how, and we definitely don’t understand. How the other half of the world thinks and why do they behave the way they do is a complete mystery to us and we just end up frustrated, angry and cynical in a cycle of dysfunctional relationships. Any learning we have from our interactions comes at the cost of a big investment in terms of time and effort.
This is exactly the problem that Datefix is helping to solve to some extent.